Mental Health Awareness

One of my good friends contacted me this week to say he was doing a fundraiser for a charity called Mind. A charity, if I’m honest, I had not heard too much about myself. Of course happy to help him out, I had a look at their website to see what they were all about. This is a mental health charity – A topic I feel that isn’t spoken about enough. I think everyone at some point in their life will either suffer from mental health problems, or will know someone who has. Many people fight on a day to day basis with depression, anxiety, extreme mood changes, stress, worry – just to name a few. Why is it that we seem to place more importance on physical health over mental? We are taught to look after our bodies – but why don’t we practise mental first aid?

Mental health awareness isn’t just a way to right wrongs and to stop people judging and ignoring. It’s a great opportunity to help all the people who feel like they’re suffering alone.

One of the best things you can do for someone in this situation is to listen to them, or if you are the person having trouble, find someone you can talk to. Don’t feel silly or that you might be judged – know one thing, you are not alone. It is important to share these emotions and feelings, what you are going through doesn’t make you strange or mean something is wrong with you. 

I would like to share my story, I can relate to the feeling of thinking that there was something wrong with me – I was going through a rough patch and I became very obsessesive, over one thing in particular- recycling.  Now, I had always been good at recycling where I could – but when I hit this blip I went overboard. Anything and everything that could be thrown away I would have to check if it could be recycled. If my recycling boxes at home were over flowing, I would have to take them to a recycle bank before the bin men collected. If I was out and about, rubbish would come home with me so I could recycle it properly. If friends came round and put things in the normal bin that I felt shouldn’t have been in there, I would take them out when they left. It was a daily thing and although very good for the environment, it was not great for my mental health. I started telling myself if I didn’t do it, something bad might happen. To the outside world I’m not sure I carried myself too differently from normal, I got on with my day to day life and would have a smile on my face. But underneath I felt I had become very out of control and couldn’t handle my emotions. I felt quite alone and all over the place. I didn’t want to talk about it, I didn’t think I needed to – and even if I did, how do I even start that conversation?! I realised that with my obsession with the recycling, I had a system. It was neat and organised. And I felt I was in control of it. It gave me some sort of satisfaction that although the rest of my life at that point felt very much everywhere – this one part was controlled for me and I thought it made me feel slightly better. I was extremely lucky to meet 4 girls at work, who happened to invite me to a get together they were having one night (to this day I do not truely know what made them ask, but I am so thankful they did) and that is where I started healing. They done the best thing they could have done – they asked if I was OK. And it was then that I realised I wasn’t OK, but I finally was ready to talk about it. All the emotion, how I was feeling, just came out over time. Nobody laughed at me, no one judged me, they had moments they could relate. I didn’t even realise I was fighting OCD, until I started to talk about my problems. A weight had been lifted and it felt so good. I found great comfort in these girls from then on (and still to this day!) To say they were a help to me, is the biggest understatement ever. I found the more I spoke about my problems and fears in my mind, the more free I became of the voices in my head. I was relaxing, becoming me again. The recycling became less of a worry, I still do take care of the environment of course, but I do not think of it the way I did then. I hope by sharing this that it helps people, even if it is just one person, to see you do not have to be frightened to talk about what you are feeling. 

A picture of me and the girls from 2012 ❤️ (in animal onesies for a New Years party!)

If you can do one thing today, ask someone if they are ok. How they are feeling. If there is anything you can help with. And if someone asks you any of these questions, respond in the best way you feel you can at the time. It isn’t easy, but it is all progress. 

If you are in need of someone to talk to and you aren’t sure who to turn to, the fantastic charity Mind are there to help give the support you might need. Please click here to visit there website

As I mentioned, my friend Dan is  fundraising for this incredible charity. He will be completing a 12 hour badminton session on the 16th December. I can barely stay awake for 12 hours let alone play a sport for that long, so I tip my hat to him. This is a very important charity for Dan and for many others, if you could in any way support him with his fundraising this would be greatly appreciated. 

Please click here to visit Dan’s JustGiving page
Alternatively, you can text a donation – Winston has given the details of how to do this below:

Here is a pic of Dan and I! 


No one should have to suffer in silence with Mental Health. Help someone out if you can. A great link from the mind website if you want further information of how to help someone who has a mental health issue Please click here

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog ❤️ Happy Friday, and have a lovely weekend ❤️

Love Lisa & Winston 👸🏼🐶

The simple life

It’s been FOREVER since I have posted. I’ve been real slack….caught up being busy doing…well, I’m not too sure what. But I want to get back into it, I find writing one of the most therapeutic things to do. So here I am, hi again! 

This gave me a perfect idea for a blog. As I said, I’ve been caught up being busy. Doing what though? Obviously I haven’t been sat doing nothing this whole time, I have a 9-5, home life to live and not forgetting to be sociable. But really, too busy to not find a few hours to do something I enjoy? I feel it becomes a very good excuse “I’m just too busy”. I’m terrible for making life more complicated than it needs to be – I’m a worrier, and I’m very good at thinking about all the things that need doing – but honestly not as good actioning them. I just complicate things. If I spent more time doing the jobs that need doing than just thinking about them, I’d free up a lot more time to do stuff I love and spend time with the people I love. So here are some ideas I feel will help start living the simple life (or maybe I should say more simple, because is life ever completely simple?!) 


The big clear out 

Room by room get rid of the things you no longer use or need. I always find I make more of a mess before it starts to look better! Get some boxes and some bin bags and go wild. If you haven’t used it/work it in the past 6 months do you REALLY still need it?! That top you bought when you were 17 that you LOVED and are convinced it will come back into fashion at some point, and although it is a big snug (and by snug I mean you can barely get it over your head) you will of lost those few pounds by the time everyone will be wearing them….No. JUST NO. It has to go. Do it in small chunks or dedicate a whole weekend for it, either way get it done – you will not be disappointed on the satisfactory feeling that comes with it.

Learn to say no

I find this hard. I’m a people pleaser, I don’t like the thought of letting anyone down. But sometimes saying yes to more than you can handle, is not the answer. Learn to say no guilt free. It does not make you a bad person. 


Spend time with people you love 

Simple. Wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, friends or family – whoever. These people bring out true happiness, the more you do it the happier you will be. 

Spend time alone

This isn’t easy for everyone. I love having a little time to myself. It can do wonders for your peace of mind. 

Manage your money

I am guilty of spending my money like it grows on trees. I am one that believes work hard and play harder, but money can cause stress. I never want to cut out having fun, but I’m an over spender – especially on food and drink! Managing my money is something I could do better. Set up direct debits, cut off useless spending (trust me, go through your bank statement and look at the random spending!) and perhaps look at a monthly budget. 

Unfollow

How many ‘friends’ clog up your feeds with useless posts etc? No offence people. Social media wastes a lot of time, your mental energy and sanity. I guess ideally if you can ditch the lot, how simpler would life be?! But if not, narrow down what you chose to view, you don’t need to follow the whole world. It can be addictive and brain washing, and people only post what they want you to see. Do more things to make you forget to look at your phone. 


The things you put off – do them

Once they are done, they are done right? No more mental burden on your mind. Usually, putting these things off only make them worse – if you do it sooner rather than later you can tick it off the list. 

And finally…..ask for help

This doesn’t make you weak. I’m guilty of not doing this in the worry that I’m adding more things to someone else’s list. You can’t always do everything. Don’t feel bad to admit you need help sometimes. 


So, that’s a few steps I plan to try and live a simpler lifestyle. It’s a bank holiday weekend so I’m going to start with a bedroom clear out – Wish me luck! I hope everyone has a lovely weekend! If anyone has any tips or advice for a simpler life, please comment below! 

Lisa & Winston 👸🏼🐶❤️

Dear younger self…

I turned 30 last year, and I honestly thought it was going to be a big life changing moment for  me the way ‘the big 3 0’ is spoken about……my birthday appeared – I turned 3 0 andddddd would you believe it?! I woke up feeling EXACTLY the same as I did when I was 29 (apart from the excitement of it being my birthday of course) The only thing that really changed was I now get asked “soooo, how does it feel to be 30? Anything different?!” In all honesty, no. What did I or anyone else expect to happen?! But I have reflected on my teenage years and I thought about how I wish I knew back then, what I know now. So, if I could speak to my younger self, here was some of my thoughts….

Being popular in school 

I cared WAY too much about this. I was never part of the popular gang. And back then it really bothered me. Has it affected my life now? NO. Do the people in your life now care if you were in the popular group? NO. So just don’t worry about it. Those popular people are highly unlikely to be part of your future life. 



FRIENDS 

It’s hard making friends in your teens – and girls can be RIGHT bitches. Sometimes people you have spent a lot of time with become – not friends, not enemies but just strangers with memories. I am lucky enough to still be great friends with 2 middle school friends, but  I drifted from my secondary school friends within what felt like pretty much the moment I left that school. I later in life met a small group of girls that I worked with – they became my rocks, and very much still are. I learnt it’s less important to have tons of friends, and more important to have real ones. 



Your parents 

They aren’t as embarrassing as you think. Honestly. Ok ok, they have to embarrass you every now and again, that’s just part of the parent title! But remember they are humans too……be nice, respect them and look after them. Be thankful – you will realise how much they did for you when you look back – try to appreciate it at the time. The moments you think ‘eurghhh they are SO unfair!’ Think about the bigger picture….perhaps maybe they aren’t being as irrational as you think.



Heartbreak

The one that broke your heart and you thought you would never get over it? The one you can’t possibly live without? You will. Trust me. And you will laugh about how ridiculous you were. It will be them who miss out, and when they realise, it will be too late (cue holding a hairbrush in front of the mirror singing Beyoncé – Best thing I never had). Take a moment to curse, cry, moan, hope they stand on lego and then MOVE ON – forget what hurt you, but remember what it taught you. 

The big life plan

There is no plan. And it is impossible to live your life expecting everything to be how you plan it – you won’t enjoy the moments, you will be flapping it isn’t going to plan – and it will STRESS YOU OUT. Job I love by 18? Married by 23? Kids by 26? Nope, nope and nope. Life doesn’t work like that. So just enjoy every moment and take it as it comes. 

Be nice 

Simply, because you never know what someone is going through. Just be a nice person, it really isn’t hard. 



Save the pennies

Getting a job and getting a nice little pay packet at the end of the month always feels great. But getting in debt is not the one. So save small amounts, this will turn to big amounts – and its totally worth it. 

Time

Stop wishing it away. Eventually you will want to rewind it!

 

Do more of what you want to do 

It’s your life, no one else’s. Don’t be influenced by others or what is the said right thing to do. Do what makes YOU happy. 

And finally….be young

Make the most of having no responsibilities, adulthood comes with a WHOLE lot of them. Once you’re an adult – YOU ARE AN ADULT. Go through bad fashion, horrific make up and terrible self chopped hair cuts. Life without the internet, phones and video games – these were the best times. 



Make the most of it, enjoy it – and be happy! Is there anything you would tell your younger self?

🌟 Happy Sunday! 🌟

Lisa 👸🏼❤