Watch out….there’s a hen do about 

For anyone who doesn’t know, I am getting married early next year which I am SUPER excited for! The time is coming round really quick, and with lots of events in between now and then I feel like I’m going to blink and it is going to be here! So, with all the exciting fabulous stuff that comes with a wedding – one thing that is just round the corner for me is my hen do! I’m off to Tenerife with a close bunch of friends, and I honestly cannot wait. There are 10 of us in total and to run down a quick brief on my group of friends, please see picture below with a short blurb about them all:


Starting with the top row, left to right.

Steph – loves to chat (typical hairdresser lol) one of those ones that pops in for one drink and 5 bottles later we are still going (not sure who is the bad influence). 

Laura – the baby of the group. My fellow sun junkie, shoe lover and RnB freak. Got me in trouble with a sausage roll once. Don’t ask.

Beth – the actual pure pain in my arse. But if I’m going to bring someone down with me – It’s always going to be her.

Middle row, left to right.

Kristy – call her Kirsty if you REALLY want a reaction. Sensitive soul, but believes she’s Beyoncé after a drink or two. 

Sarah – tiny enough to keep safe in your pocket. Big gym lover with the body to prove it (much to everyone else’s disgust – pass us the cake).

Jen – Jen, Jen, Jen. There is not enough time to go on about Jen. If you can get her to a party, she will be the life and soul I promise you. 

Bottom row, left to right.

Natalie – my long time friend, known since birth. Fellow Gin lover. Hopeless romantic, but has some great stories that come with it!

Sam – my partner in wine and my twinny. Had a run in with a possum once, a story she loves to tell.

Naomi – she’s not angry, she just has resting bitch face. (Although in this picture she actually looks like she is breaking a smile!) Drinks a lot of tea and reads a lot of books.

So, there you go, that’s my girl gang. And I love them very much for making this all happen. 

I thought I would do a blog about my 5 hen do holiday essentials (minus the obvious – passport, money, tickets, clothes) – I have been discussing what I am taking with me for MONTHS. I’m only going for 5 days, but you would think I’m going for 5 years! There’s a lot of planning that goes into girls suitcases. In no particular order…..

1. Some fancy swimwear 


We are going to a beach club when we are there so I thought I would go for a bit of sparkle! And I love pineapple print so I just couldn’t resist the other! Both of these were from boohoo. Click here to visit Boohoo

2. A drinking cup


Fancy drinking by the pool but saving pennies? Buy a bottle of your fav tipple at the airport get some mixer when you arrive – set up your own bar from your room! 

3. Music 


I lovvvvve music so I always make sure I’ve created a playlist before I go away! I use Spotify to create my own, or download pre made ones. I also use a wireless speaker. I only got this one earlier this year but it is GREAT. It’s the wireless, waterproof outdoor turtle – myself and Laura have one each and you can pair them to make it louder. *Queue 10 girls belting out a bit of the spice girls singing into their hairbrushes whilst getting ready.*

4. Cute beach/pool bag


How cute?! Ok, so I may of created the body I want to have with the luscious locks I dream of rather than a true reflection of myself – but I love this little customised jute bag! Perfect for carrying my bits to the pool/beach. I used customised by Laura as she was recommended to me by Naomi who had already ordered a few previous items from her, and I have to say Laura was brilliant and her prices are great too. You get to select hair, eye colour, outfit and other bits! Check out her website Click here

5. Make up bag


What girl is complete without her make up bag?! These are my go to items. 

Make up bag – Kurt Geiger 

Primer – benefit the pore fessional 

Foundation – Estée Lauder double wear and urban decay powder

Contour – NYX wonder stick 

Blush – maybeline dream touch blush 

Highlighter – benefit high beam 

Eyeshadow – urban decay naked 3 

Eyeliner – Lancôme crayon 

Eyebrow pencil – Ted Baker 

Mascara – maybeline lash sensational 

Lips – L’Oréal and soap and glory 

I tend to get most of my make up and face care items from Feel Unique online – they always have some great offers on. To visit their website Click here

I of course have many other things being squeezed into my case, but these were just a few at the top of my list. Countdown is on, get me to the sunshine and cocktails! 

Do you have any holiday essentials you always take? Let me know! 

Thanks for stopping by! I hope you all have a fabulous weekend! 

Lisa & Winston 👸🏼🐶❤️

Mental Health Awareness

One of my good friends contacted me this week to say he was doing a fundraiser for a charity called Mind. A charity, if I’m honest, I had not heard too much about myself. Of course happy to help him out, I had a look at their website to see what they were all about. This is a mental health charity – A topic I feel that isn’t spoken about enough. I think everyone at some point in their life will either suffer from mental health problems, or will know someone who has. Many people fight on a day to day basis with depression, anxiety, extreme mood changes, stress, worry – just to name a few. Why is it that we seem to place more importance on physical health over mental? We are taught to look after our bodies – but why don’t we practise mental first aid?

Mental health awareness isn’t just a way to right wrongs and to stop people judging and ignoring. It’s a great opportunity to help all the people who feel like they’re suffering alone.

One of the best things you can do for someone in this situation is to listen to them, or if you are the person having trouble, find someone you can talk to. Don’t feel silly or that you might be judged – know one thing, you are not alone. It is important to share these emotions and feelings, what you are going through doesn’t make you strange or mean something is wrong with you. 

I would like to share my story, I can relate to the feeling of thinking that there was something wrong with me – I was going through a rough patch and I became very obsessesive, over one thing in particular- recycling.  Now, I had always been good at recycling where I could – but when I hit this blip I went overboard. Anything and everything that could be thrown away I would have to check if it could be recycled. If my recycling boxes at home were over flowing, I would have to take them to a recycle bank before the bin men collected. If I was out and about, rubbish would come home with me so I could recycle it properly. If friends came round and put things in the normal bin that I felt shouldn’t have been in there, I would take them out when they left. It was a daily thing and although very good for the environment, it was not great for my mental health. I started telling myself if I didn’t do it, something bad might happen. To the outside world I’m not sure I carried myself too differently from normal, I got on with my day to day life and would have a smile on my face. But underneath I felt I had become very out of control and couldn’t handle my emotions. I felt quite alone and all over the place. I didn’t want to talk about it, I didn’t think I needed to – and even if I did, how do I even start that conversation?! I realised that with my obsession with the recycling, I had a system. It was neat and organised. And I felt I was in control of it. It gave me some sort of satisfaction that although the rest of my life at that point felt very much everywhere – this one part was controlled for me and I thought it made me feel slightly better. I was extremely lucky to meet 4 girls at work, who happened to invite me to a get together they were having one night (to this day I do not truely know what made them ask, but I am so thankful they did) and that is where I started healing. They done the best thing they could have done – they asked if I was OK. And it was then that I realised I wasn’t OK, but I finally was ready to talk about it. All the emotion, how I was feeling, just came out over time. Nobody laughed at me, no one judged me, they had moments they could relate. I didn’t even realise I was fighting OCD, until I started to talk about my problems. A weight had been lifted and it felt so good. I found great comfort in these girls from then on (and still to this day!) To say they were a help to me, is the biggest understatement ever. I found the more I spoke about my problems and fears in my mind, the more free I became of the voices in my head. I was relaxing, becoming me again. The recycling became less of a worry, I still do take care of the environment of course, but I do not think of it the way I did then. I hope by sharing this that it helps people, even if it is just one person, to see you do not have to be frightened to talk about what you are feeling. 

A picture of me and the girls from 2012 ❤️ (in animal onesies for a New Years party!)

If you can do one thing today, ask someone if they are ok. How they are feeling. If there is anything you can help with. And if someone asks you any of these questions, respond in the best way you feel you can at the time. It isn’t easy, but it is all progress. 

If you are in need of someone to talk to and you aren’t sure who to turn to, the fantastic charity Mind are there to help give the support you might need. Please click here to visit there website

As I mentioned, my friend Dan is  fundraising for this incredible charity. He will be completing a 12 hour badminton session on the 16th December. I can barely stay awake for 12 hours let alone play a sport for that long, so I tip my hat to him. This is a very important charity for Dan and for many others, if you could in any way support him with his fundraising this would be greatly appreciated. 

Please click here to visit Dan’s JustGiving page
Alternatively, you can text a donation – Winston has given the details of how to do this below:

Here is a pic of Dan and I! 


No one should have to suffer in silence with Mental Health. Help someone out if you can. A great link from the mind website if you want further information of how to help someone who has a mental health issue Please click here

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog ❤️ Happy Friday, and have a lovely weekend ❤️

Love Lisa & Winston 👸🏼🐶

The simple life

It’s been FOREVER since I have posted. I’ve been real slack….caught up being busy doing…well, I’m not too sure what. But I want to get back into it, I find writing one of the most therapeutic things to do. So here I am, hi again! 

This gave me a perfect idea for a blog. As I said, I’ve been caught up being busy. Doing what though? Obviously I haven’t been sat doing nothing this whole time, I have a 9-5, home life to live and not forgetting to be sociable. But really, too busy to not find a few hours to do something I enjoy? I feel it becomes a very good excuse “I’m just too busy”. I’m terrible for making life more complicated than it needs to be – I’m a worrier, and I’m very good at thinking about all the things that need doing – but honestly not as good actioning them. I just complicate things. If I spent more time doing the jobs that need doing than just thinking about them, I’d free up a lot more time to do stuff I love and spend time with the people I love. So here are some ideas I feel will help start living the simple life (or maybe I should say more simple, because is life ever completely simple?!) 


The big clear out 

Room by room get rid of the things you no longer use or need. I always find I make more of a mess before it starts to look better! Get some boxes and some bin bags and go wild. If you haven’t used it/work it in the past 6 months do you REALLY still need it?! That top you bought when you were 17 that you LOVED and are convinced it will come back into fashion at some point, and although it is a big snug (and by snug I mean you can barely get it over your head) you will of lost those few pounds by the time everyone will be wearing them….No. JUST NO. It has to go. Do it in small chunks or dedicate a whole weekend for it, either way get it done – you will not be disappointed on the satisfactory feeling that comes with it.

Learn to say no

I find this hard. I’m a people pleaser, I don’t like the thought of letting anyone down. But sometimes saying yes to more than you can handle, is not the answer. Learn to say no guilt free. It does not make you a bad person. 


Spend time with people you love 

Simple. Wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, friends or family – whoever. These people bring out true happiness, the more you do it the happier you will be. 

Spend time alone

This isn’t easy for everyone. I love having a little time to myself. It can do wonders for your peace of mind. 

Manage your money

I am guilty of spending my money like it grows on trees. I am one that believes work hard and play harder, but money can cause stress. I never want to cut out having fun, but I’m an over spender – especially on food and drink! Managing my money is something I could do better. Set up direct debits, cut off useless spending (trust me, go through your bank statement and look at the random spending!) and perhaps look at a monthly budget. 

Unfollow

How many ‘friends’ clog up your feeds with useless posts etc? No offence people. Social media wastes a lot of time, your mental energy and sanity. I guess ideally if you can ditch the lot, how simpler would life be?! But if not, narrow down what you chose to view, you don’t need to follow the whole world. It can be addictive and brain washing, and people only post what they want you to see. Do more things to make you forget to look at your phone. 


The things you put off – do them

Once they are done, they are done right? No more mental burden on your mind. Usually, putting these things off only make them worse – if you do it sooner rather than later you can tick it off the list. 

And finally…..ask for help

This doesn’t make you weak. I’m guilty of not doing this in the worry that I’m adding more things to someone else’s list. You can’t always do everything. Don’t feel bad to admit you need help sometimes. 


So, that’s a few steps I plan to try and live a simpler lifestyle. It’s a bank holiday weekend so I’m going to start with a bedroom clear out – Wish me luck! I hope everyone has a lovely weekend! If anyone has any tips or advice for a simpler life, please comment below! 

Lisa & Winston 👸🏼🐶❤️

Just a little note…

In January I mentioned about getting back in the gym again – I got myself a gym buddy (my friend Jen) and together we decided we were going to smash it out of the park this year. 4.30am wake ups to be at the gym for 5am. That first 5mins of waking up is an absoloute killer. It is make or break for me – the feeling I get when my alarm goes off, is what I can only imagine the end of the world will feel like. Dragging myself out of my warm, cosy bed. Out of my dreamy slumber. To take me to to a place that resembles hell. Why would I want to do this to myself? Why not just close my eyes again? I have been working hard, have a rest. I will start again tomorrow. I really cant be bothered. I am so tired. Honestly, the list of these and many more go through my head EVERYDAY. Once I am out the door, I completley forget about the morning monster I have just emerged from, albeit I still resemble one at that time. A few weeks in and we were starting to get into full swing, and it was even getting easier to get up (only by a tiny bit).

There is always time to take a quick mirror selfie

Then we hit a bump, both of us had reasons we couldn’t go to the gym for a few days. The few days turned into a week. The week turned into 2. Why is it so easy to fall out of a routine and so hard to get back to it! So, this Thursday just gone we said we HAD to get back to it. NO EXCUSES. Thursday morning at 4.30am the miserable monster was back and pulled herself out of bed, it seemed harder than ever. But at least I done it….a certain someone turned her alarm off and didn’t turn up, I won’t mention any names though lol.

A few weeks before, I had been making a little gift for Jen (oops mentioned her name) to help us along with a bit of motivation, so I thought what a perfect day to leave this for her on her doorstep.


What I had done was a jar of little notes for the year that included motivation quotes, workouts, inspirational quotes and just random blurb, that hopefully would make her feel positive when getting up – either about working out, herself, life or just make her laugh. One small positive thought in the morning, can change your whole day. So far, she has had quotes to wake up to….which I am pleased about as when I added the hardcore workouts in, I kind of forgot that I would have to get myself through these too at the gym – I can safely say I am nervous for the days she pulls those ones out.

Winston gave me a hand of course


So, we are back in the game – and heres to it continuing! Holidays and a wedding to work for, so we should have plenty of motivation to get us out the door in the morning! If you have had a small period of time off, or even if you have had a gym membership for a year and have had reasons/excuses to not go (it is easy to do, I have been there!) – get a gym buddy, get in a routine. It starts hard, but every day gets that little bit easier to do it. You’re future self will thank you for it!

And as it’s been Random Acts Of Kindess week – if you have some spare time and want to cheer someone up why not do a jar of notes! It doesn’t have to be a year, it can be for certain days, or when someone is just feeling a bit down – or even stick random post it’s at work, home or even a bus stop for people to find!

Give Jen a follow on Instagram ❤ @jennifer_carr88
Have a lovely weekend everyone!

Love Lisa & Winston 👸🏼🐾❤

You Will Never Regret Being Kind

I was so glad for it to be the weekend. How long was January guys?! Never ending! So finally pay day had arrived earlier in the week and I had made plans to go to the cinema with my fiancé, and grab a bite to eat. We were eating after the cinema, but I didn’t think I could make it through a film on an empty stomach, so had to get some nachos and a glass of prosecco – we will just call this a pre dinner snack. We decided to see Split – which FYI was a good watch, I even managed to stay awake throughout the whole film, which is record breaking for me. After getting out of the cinema and having a mini debate about where to go for food, we agreed on Wagamamas. Another glass of prosecco and some yum food (despite my order being forgotten about, my fiancé devouring his food in front of me, then spilling his plate of remains over the table whilst stabbing prawn heads with chop sticks as he impatiently waited for me to get my food and eat it.) 

The real part of this blog was something that happened as we were walking back to the car. I saw a lady shivering under a blanket sat outside. My heart sank. Regardless to what her story was and the reason for her not having anywhere to go was beside the point, this is not a nice situation for anyone to be in. We walked back to the car and so many things crossed my mind. Firstly, this weather – it has been freezing. I thought of the times I sat at home complaining about being what I call ‘freezing’. Not even being greatful for the roof I have over my head, the clothes in my wardrobe I can put on to add layers and the heating I can turn up. Secondly, she’s alone. Where are her friends or family? If anything happened to me I know I have full support around me. From serious matters to just having a bad day, there is always someone I can call. To not have anyone, is really upsetting for me. I started to then think about how she must be feeling – sad, alone, helpless, scared….I don’t know, I just couldn’t even imagine being in that situation. 

I couldn’t walk away not doing anything. I don’t like to give money as I don’t know what this goes to, and I wouldn’t want to be making the situation she was in any worse. I went to a McDonald’s that was round the corner (I wanted to find something a bit nicer! But not much was left open that was serving still) A cup of hot tea and something to eat, although it was a small gesture, I hoped it may help slightly.  

I walked back down to where she was, she was covering her face with the blanket to shield from the wind, I crouched beside her and said what was in the cup and bag – now, I have given people expensive, real thoughtful gifts in the past, but I have to say her response was probably one of the most genuine, thankful appreciative responses I’ve ever had. She was so greatful, and was super happy as it now also meant she had another sticker for her McDonald’s coffee card to get a free one in the morning. I passed the bag over as well and she could not of said thank you enough. I wished her well and off I went – I felt a small part of happiness as I returned to the car that for perhaps just a tiny moment, that although not life changing, but that might of made a slight difference to her evening. 

It got me thinking, this was 5 minutes of my time and less than £5 from my purse, not a big deal to me – but was a big deal for someone else. I appreciated everything I had last night. I know we can’t help everyone, but if you have a chance to possibly make a small difference to someone’s life, do it. You will never regret being kind. 

I woke up this morning still thinking about it -it led me to a website – random acts of kindness foundation. And they are launching a #RAKWEEK2017 – you are invited to join in a week of kindness from Feb 12-18. Helping to build a kinder world? That’s the sort of place I want to be – I have signed myself up….so stay tuned.


If you are interested – please Click here to take you to their website. Or check out their social channels below.

Facebook
Instagram
Twitter

Let’s help turn the world kind ❤

Lots of love,

Lisa & Winston 👸🏼🐶

Dear younger self…

I turned 30 last year, and I honestly thought it was going to be a big life changing moment for  me the way ‘the big 3 0’ is spoken about……my birthday appeared – I turned 3 0 andddddd would you believe it?! I woke up feeling EXACTLY the same as I did when I was 29 (apart from the excitement of it being my birthday of course) The only thing that really changed was I now get asked “soooo, how does it feel to be 30? Anything different?!” In all honesty, no. What did I or anyone else expect to happen?! But I have reflected on my teenage years and I thought about how I wish I knew back then, what I know now. So, if I could speak to my younger self, here was some of my thoughts….

Being popular in school 

I cared WAY too much about this. I was never part of the popular gang. And back then it really bothered me. Has it affected my life now? NO. Do the people in your life now care if you were in the popular group? NO. So just don’t worry about it. Those popular people are highly unlikely to be part of your future life. 



FRIENDS 

It’s hard making friends in your teens – and girls can be RIGHT bitches. Sometimes people you have spent a lot of time with become – not friends, not enemies but just strangers with memories. I am lucky enough to still be great friends with 2 middle school friends, but  I drifted from my secondary school friends within what felt like pretty much the moment I left that school. I later in life met a small group of girls that I worked with – they became my rocks, and very much still are. I learnt it’s less important to have tons of friends, and more important to have real ones. 



Your parents 

They aren’t as embarrassing as you think. Honestly. Ok ok, they have to embarrass you every now and again, that’s just part of the parent title! But remember they are humans too……be nice, respect them and look after them. Be thankful – you will realise how much they did for you when you look back – try to appreciate it at the time. The moments you think ‘eurghhh they are SO unfair!’ Think about the bigger picture….perhaps maybe they aren’t being as irrational as you think.



Heartbreak

The one that broke your heart and you thought you would never get over it? The one you can’t possibly live without? You will. Trust me. And you will laugh about how ridiculous you were. It will be them who miss out, and when they realise, it will be too late (cue holding a hairbrush in front of the mirror singing Beyoncé – Best thing I never had). Take a moment to curse, cry, moan, hope they stand on lego and then MOVE ON – forget what hurt you, but remember what it taught you. 

The big life plan

There is no plan. And it is impossible to live your life expecting everything to be how you plan it – you won’t enjoy the moments, you will be flapping it isn’t going to plan – and it will STRESS YOU OUT. Job I love by 18? Married by 23? Kids by 26? Nope, nope and nope. Life doesn’t work like that. So just enjoy every moment and take it as it comes. 

Be nice 

Simply, because you never know what someone is going through. Just be a nice person, it really isn’t hard. 



Save the pennies

Getting a job and getting a nice little pay packet at the end of the month always feels great. But getting in debt is not the one. So save small amounts, this will turn to big amounts – and its totally worth it. 

Time

Stop wishing it away. Eventually you will want to rewind it!

 

Do more of what you want to do 

It’s your life, no one else’s. Don’t be influenced by others or what is the said right thing to do. Do what makes YOU happy. 

And finally….be young

Make the most of having no responsibilities, adulthood comes with a WHOLE lot of them. Once you’re an adult – YOU ARE AN ADULT. Go through bad fashion, horrific make up and terrible self chopped hair cuts. Life without the internet, phones and video games – these were the best times. 



Make the most of it, enjoy it – and be happy! Is there anything you would tell your younger self?

🌟 Happy Sunday! 🌟

Lisa 👸🏼❤

It’s that time of year again…

New year new me….I’m sure we say this every year. New Years resolutions made on the 1st Jan and failed by the 2nd. Resolutions have never really been my thing. I am trying to think of a year when I have truly stuck to a resolution…..sad to say I don’t think there is one. 

Now, I am a bit late jumping on the band wagon this year, I’ve had a terrible case of man flu over the past week or so and I am only just feeling more human like (awww poor me) As always, the same as a lot of people, it seems to be a reoccurring resolution that I have…..eat well and excercise more. My problem is I expect results over night! (If only!)  I wish I had the body I moaned about in my late teens early twenties! Now, do not get me wrong – I do not think I am obese, nor do I need to shed tones of weight, but I would like to be fit and healthy, and look after my body more. 

This year I am going with more of an open mind and small lifestyle changes, rather than a resolution…..I don’t know how much of a difference that makes but I’m going with it! 

One big failure I do every year is saying I can’t have this and I can’t have that. So first things first is to not banish all the food I love – this definitely makes it unrealistic for me to stick to. If I want a big fat burger and chips on a Saturday night with a bottle of prosecco – I will have it. It’s about balance. 


I want to take the time to cook more meals and know what is going into my food. I actually enjoy cooking, I just feel I make the excuse of not having enough time (normally because I am so impatient and eat the entire contents of my cupboards whilst I wait for my food to cook). And what brings good friends together? GOOD FOOD. More meals in rather than meals out. 

I got the Joe Wicks lean in 15 book for crimbo, so this will certainly come in handy. Along with a jar of the good old Lucy Bee coconut oil.  You can get his book in pretty much all book stores but here is the website for more information of what the body coach is all about – Click here or if you want to check out details of Lucy Bee or find your local stockist Click here

There is always temptation around. Biscuits with your tea, sweets in the shop or a big fat slab of cake from the local cafe. Eating rubbish tends to leave you feeling like rubbish. As they say, a moment on the lips a life time on the hips….it’s even hard for pugs to resist.

There is no ‘we’ in food. I am not a sharer. But when it comes to other people’s food, I eye up my friends food before I have even finished my own. What a greedy guts! (Winston giving a good example of this below.) Self control is the key, cutting down on portions and leaving everyone else’s left overs on their plates rather than shovelling them in my belly. 

ALCOHOL. The dreaded alcohol. To me drink responsibly means to not spill it. I love a cheeky drink (or two) with friends at the weekend, but maybe to be even more responsible and cut back on the calorific beverages…

And moving onto the good stuff. I like using bootea 28 day teatox, all the ingredients are 100% natural. This always helps me feel less bloated, more energised and gives great results. If you want more info on bootea – Please click here

As I am getting older (sigh) I appreciate being out and about more. The beautiful changing seasons to the friendly people I meet on dog walks. I’d like to walk more places, enjoy the fresh air. Take Winston on longer adventures, admire the outdoors. Added bonus of burning calories as well.

I would rather every day be rest day. But I don’t think it works that way unfortunately. I have a gym membership that I couldn’t tell you the last time I used. So, next step is get to the gym more. 3 times a week at least, whether it be classes or general gym sessions. Something to get me moving the muscles I’ve forgotten I have. 

With these changes to my lifestyle…I hope to have a healthier, happier body and mind. 

I have lots of exciting things planned for 2017 and even for 2018! So here’s to hoping in a years time, I will be glad I started now. I hope to blog about recipes, trips out and about and gym sessions so I will keep you posted of my progress! 

Wishing you all a very happy 2017! 

Lots of love, 

Lisa & Winston 👸🏼🐶 

xxx