I turned 30 last year, and I honestly thought it was going to be a big life changing moment for me the way ‘the big 3 0’ is spoken about……my birthday appeared – I turned 3 0 andddddd would you believe it?! I woke up feeling EXACTLY the same as I did when I was 29 (apart from the excitement of it being my birthday of course) The only thing that really changed was I now get asked “soooo, how does it feel to be 30? Anything different?!” In all honesty, no. What did I or anyone else expect to happen?! But I have reflected on my teenage years and I thought about how I wish I knew back then, what I know now. So, if I could speak to my younger self, here was some of my thoughts….
Being popular in school
I cared WAY too much about this. I was never part of the popular gang. And back then it really bothered me. Has it affected my life now? NO. Do the people in your life now care if you were in the popular group? NO. So just don’t worry about it. Those popular people are highly unlikely to be part of your future life.
It’s hard making friends in your teens – and girls can be RIGHT bitches. Sometimes people you have spent a lot of time with become – not friends, not enemies but just strangers with memories. I am lucky enough to still be great friends with 2 middle school friends, but I drifted from my secondary school friends within what felt like pretty much the moment I left that school. I later in life met a small group of girls that I worked with – they became my rocks, and very much still are. I learnt it’s less important to have tons of friends, and more important to have real ones.
They aren’t as embarrassing as you think. Honestly. Ok ok, they have to embarrass you every now and again, that’s just part of the parent title! But remember they are humans too……be nice, respect them and look after them. Be thankful – you will realise how much they did for you when you look back – try to appreciate it at the time. The moments you think ‘eurghhh they are SO unfair!’ Think about the bigger picture….perhaps maybe they aren’t being as irrational as you think.
The one that broke your heart and you thought you would never get over it? The one you can’t possibly live without? You will. Trust me. And you will laugh about how ridiculous you were. It will be them who miss out, and when they realise, it will be too late (cue holding a hairbrush in front of the mirror singing Beyoncé – Best thing I never had). Take a moment to curse, cry, moan, hope they stand on lego and then MOVE ON – forget what hurt you, but remember what it taught you.
The big life plan
There is no plan. And it is impossible to live your life expecting everything to be how you plan it – you won’t enjoy the moments, you will be flapping it isn’t going to plan – and it will STRESS YOU OUT. Job I love by 18? Married by 23? Kids by 26? Nope, nope and nope. Life doesn’t work like that. So just enjoy every moment and take it as it comes.
Simply, because you never know what someone is going through. Just be a nice person, it really isn’t hard.
Save the pennies
Getting a job and getting a nice little pay packet at the end of the month always feels great. But getting in debt is not the one. So save small amounts, this will turn to big amounts – and its totally worth it.
Stop wishing it away. Eventually you will want to rewind it!
Do more of what you want to do
It’s your life, no one else’s. Don’t be influenced by others or what is the said right thing to do. Do what makes YOU happy.
And finally….be young
Make the most of having no responsibilities, adulthood comes with a WHOLE lot of them. Once you’re an adult – YOU ARE AN ADULT. Go through bad fashion, horrific make up and terrible self chopped hair cuts. Life without the internet, phones and video games – these were the best times.
🌟 Happy Sunday! 🌟